No such luck

[Mach1]

I do think men are intimidated by me. By all I’ve been through and the fact that I’ve got most of poop together despite it.

I don't think men are intimidated by you. There may be some who are, but it has not generally been the case from what I have read on your thread earlier. If anything, I have seen them take advantage of your good nature.

Actually, it's probably a little of both.....

But then again, taking advantage of a good hearted person who is willing to give herself totally...

And being willing to accept that...????

Wouldn't that be........ dysfunctional ?

A good person who has their sh!t together, is honest, loyal, self aware, self policing, makes good money, owns her own home and has single handedly raised a very bright and well adapted Daughter...

Yea, that shouldn't intimidate anyone ....

Mostly looking for Sex, or a Mother figure, somebody to be a "right now" fix for their long term dysfunction by hding in your emotional 'basement'....

If you took an honest look at your past, you could argue that some of them were not truly attracted to you. Some of the men Mach mentions above were probably dysfunctional. But I feel most of them were just playing you till they found something better.

My comment was to the overall genre of online dating...

There are probably more trolls in that arena than anywhere else...

I do finally realize my relationship status doesn’t define me. I just really want some healthy companionship of the opposite sex.

I have not seen your actions be consistent with your words. Your desperation to be in a relationship is obvious and I suspect it comes across to potential partners too. In my opinion you are looking for a 'happy ever after' and want it quickly, whether you realize it or not. Your desperation is why you moved too quickly with the Texan. If I recollect, there was another person (E?) you broke up with because you felt 'he listens to his kids too much. To me, someone prioritizing the opinion or wishes of their teenage kids over someone they have known for a few weeks is a sign of good character. It is possible he tried to sugar coat things to avoid offending you, but it's not hard to guess the real reason.

Totally agree that G moves through courting right to where she sees long term. I think that has settled a wee bit recently...

Desperation has turned into frustration for someone that "wants" to be in a relationship as badly as G wants one....

If you were to read her history here, you would know that G was just coming into the life she had envisioned when the excrement collided with the rotational device....

So what makes that different for her ?

She isn't looking for anything that any other human in the world hasn't craved at some point.

So what is it that makes her different than the others. ????


Is it the pond in which she is fishing ??

Is it some kind of defect in the universe that allows her to not find constant companionship ??

I wish for G that she knew that answer....

But she is here, and trying to find those answers.....

Personally, I think that she puts way too much pressure on herself to be one way or another. And I have told her that many times in the past.

Tommy Boy....right G ??

Where Tommy is trying to make the sale, and he crashes the toy car and it burst into flames....

But I know being single is not who I am.

First, drop this attitude. If you define yourself as a person that is not meant to be single, you put a lot of pressure on yourself and that pressure will translate to your relationships. Embrace being single. You have to love yourself first and feel complete without another person. Counter intuitive yes, but like DB that's when you will have the best chance of settling down with someone.

Second, be self-confident and have high standards but ask yourself whether you are putting yourself on a pedestal. People like to give advice that 'you are the prize' but that only works in specific scenarios like LRT. If you are the prize in a relationship, it is not a relationship of equals which is not good. What you bring to the relationship may not be what the other person values. Focus on whether the other person brings what you value in a relationship and whether you are providing what they value.

I think that you are correct in theory...

Maybe just mis-calculating a bit....

G is the prize...

I am the prize

You are the prize....

That IS self loving and confidence...




Sorry G, if I spoke about you like you weren't here....

This is a good conversation.....you should join...: )