So my question is mainly around how do you interact or not with your exs other half?
Fortunately whether it's my ExW's preference to "keep up appearances" or if OM2 doesn't want to go, but he and his family haven't attended any of my kids' events in the first two years of this, so I've had very few encounters. The first was early on at a transition and I made some comment out of strength like "what, OM2...you're not going to say hello to me?!?" (as he's living with my then-W and young kids). The second was a chance encounter at a grocery store in which he walked right by me and I completely ignored him.
My $0.02 is do whether is best for you. I don't think you have to say hello to your ExW's "partner", especially if they were having an affair while you were married - maybe it's different if down the road he met someone else. But do whatever makes you feel the best, most comfortable, strongest.
Originally Posted by Gigi123
I like the idea of not ever seeing her or anyone else for that matter
I completely get it!
Originally Posted by Gigi123
Would it be worth speaking to the kids about this?
I personally would not have a discussion with the kids on it. They're too young to be put in the middle and worried about whether you should or should not say hello and what to do in social engagements. If they were grown adults a conversation might be appropriate, but not at 6 & 8. Just my opinion.
How are you doing personally? Did you sell the house and get a new place? Any fun GAL stories?
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
