STBXW doesn't have a good track record of boundaries,
These 1:1's are an opportunity for you to get more comfortable with setting and enforcing boundaries.
"My wife will not curse at me." is NOT a boundary. You do not control this. "I will not listen to my wife if she's cursing at me." IS a boundary. You control this.
Scenario: Wife calls you and curses at you. Enforcement: You hang up.
Originally Posted by tt180
She can easily use it as a forum for other things since at the moment all face to face conversation outside of day to day has been shutdown.
Wife: I'd like to discuss alimony. You: In these 1:1s I will only talk about co-parenting our kids. Wife: Alimony blah blah blah alimony blah blah blah You: --- Wife: Don't you have anything to say? You: In these 1:1s I will only talk about co-parenting our kids.
Originally Posted by tt180
The stick is that if mediation fails, I can get a legal document that asserts the failure and I can then go the legal route through the courts. I do not want to, but I'm not afraid if I have to.
Exactly right--if your lawyer feels her private proposal is better than what you'll get going through court, great, if not just head for court and get what the court typically awards as defaults or maybe she settles last minute.
