Posting again because I feel some comfort here and reading Pack's recent post I know I'm not the only one struggling at times.
So...I'm fully D after 3 years of separation. Neither of us ever dated anyone during that time (of course that I know of). I guess W decided to go online dating after D and found her new awesome BF. Going too fast IMO, but not my thing. He's younger and I'm not overly impressed, but it is what it is.
For some reason that hit REALLY hard and I'm spinning backwards after all I've been through. I know it will pass, but reminds me how attached to her I still was the whole time. I had adjusted to the way things were and we still somewhat acted as a family.
I have to figure out how to push my anger and hurt aside to continue that good co parent relationship.
No matter how long it has been and how much I knew it, I struggle with another man in the picture around her and my kids.
Ridiculous, it seems, I know, but this is what I'm going through.
I always wonder if dating would help or hurt me. I really want to dedicate my time to the kids, which I do, but I also get lonely. Been 3 years.
If I follow what I've learned here, I'm not ready for dating.
