Sounds like you are having fun shopping for the house. A few months live among the boxes will pass pretty quickly.
G’s message is intriguing. And, methinks, purposefully vague.
Given he sent is on Father’s Day, I’d suspect he is stirred somewhat. The little wanted interacting from his kids, undoubtedly amplifying that stirring.
The “next step” is an odd statement. The whole message is a bit odd if you ask me. Next step? Your move. Maybe he’s moving? Or marrying? Or breaking up?
Meeting at his house to discuss sounds rather entrapping. I’d steer clear of that. Like you said, I think OW2 lives with him. So not sure why he’d invite you to his house.
My guess is to do with the kids. His message to them and then one to you are likely connected. Your move, the next step, cuts him out of your life. He had, and has, nothing to do with the house. To “end everything in a better way” for him would to be involved. Remember, his path is all about him. I suspect manipulating to get back in to the middle of things. You sense something too - as in he feels you cannot live without him.
His manipulating looks, for the moment, not seriously nefarious; more of a man trying to figure out an easy way to talk his kids into seeing him. Avoiding the difficult work.
When MLCers are pleasant and sweet as sugar, they are usually after something.
Still, I’d respond and see just what he is up to. Not an agreement to meet. Not yet. Rather a prompt for more information.
Hello G
I am open to a discussion. You mentioned a better way. What are you proposing?
I’m unsure of your timeline reference. “Before the next step” has no significance to me. If you could clarify that, it would be appreciated.
E
Of course, you could just ignore the message, yet for the sake of your young children I think this opportunity is something worth exploring.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
