A friend of hers encouraged her to ask me for an open marriage. I said no. But this friend was also cheating on her husband with a married man of four kids.
She divorced her husband, sold the home to buy him out and moved elsewhere. It was her who told my then wife "it's not cheating if you tell him you're separated."
Last year, my ex wife invited her to my daughter's sweet 16 and lo and behold, she turned up with her exhusband who is now back with her.
My relative told me that my ex WW is now the only member of the "leave your husband behind club."
It must be frustrating to see that woman wanting to reconcile with her husband when yours did not (or at least hasn't try to yet). I know sometimes I encounter situations with the couple still together having gone through (at least from my perspective) much rougher, more difficult relationships than mine. I think we had such a decent (ideal to some) situation, so what was so bad? Or, I'm at S7's art show at school and the four of us are walking the halls together to see his art and socialize with others, and I'm sure folks who don't know us/our situation see a perfectly a perfectly normal family, and it makes me think what was so bad we shouldn't be?
To me it enforces the idea that it's more about my ExW's journey than my bad actions (and I suspect this reflects your situation as well). Sure I've reflected on things I could've done better, and vacillate a bit, but overall I think our Exs were dealing with issues bigger than us.
Originally Posted by LH19
Originally Posted by Drh2001
Last year, my ex wife invited her to my daughter's sweet 16 and lo and behold, she turned up with her exhusband who is now back with her.
If he took her back to easy you can bet that is more than likely going to happen again.
I tend to think LH19 is right. How many sitches here have we encountered with a false R. Hope those do the hard work and two deal with their issues.
Hang in there, Drh2001. Wishing the best for you and your teenaged daughters.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
