I'm Back after 1st DB (5)

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toughtimes180,

It shut her up.

I called her out

I said no. We are no longer that sort of family

Couldn't help but feel a bit smug there.

It's hard to tell whether you're just venting here in the forum, or if that attitude is being overtly directed at STBXW. Hopefully it's the former. Just my perception but at times you can come across in your posts as a bit arrogant or smug about the situation. I completely get the emotions around the divorce, but make an effort not to allow that to seep into your interactions with her. You want to be calm cool and collected, treating her politely like a cashier, not creating any additional anger or negative feelings. Sure, she may have them anyway due to the situation or built up resentment, but ensure you're not making digs digs at her which will cause more. Even if you don't want to R, less bickering and anger will make the meditation/D process easier and less expensive, and will be better for the kids over the years.

"No, that doesn't work for me."

"I am not sure"
"I will let you know when I have decided"
"That does not work for me"
"I need time to think about that"
"I like it that way"
"I prefer ..."
"I will send you an email"
"I will text you"
"My lawyer will contact you"
"I am thinking"
"I am busy"
"I have something I have to take care of"
"I decided..."

Traveler & Ready2Change gave you some great options. Read these over and practice them.

I just answer, "send all documents and questions to my lawyer."

Great answer!

Woman "I don't know..what to wear..should I wear jeans or a dress"
Man:"Wear the black sexy dress"

One day, I'll get that dress question!

I too look forward to this type of interaction in the future!

Had a good mediation session.

Glad the mediation session went well. Sounds like you were well-informed by L, stood up for your rights, and will get an equitable outcome. Stay strong in this regard.