Traveler, another reminder I talk too much. I love that line, it doesn't work for me. I admit I'm a bit fragile the last few days. Not really DBing, not overtly angry, but saying too much, whilst true, but gets her off.
I hear you. It's easy for me to identify good retorts--from the comfort of my chair, with a La Croix in my hand, looking at the sunny garden in my backyard. The less you say in the moment ("Yes or no questions get yes or no answers"), the more time you give yourself to decide what you want after calming down and thinking through the situation.
Originally Posted by tt180
Maybe monthly, maybe only special occasions.
I see. For me, the answer to this was, "No". My XW and I do things together on occasion, but I like that it's voluntary and no parenting agreement forces us to. Christmas typically involves "Christmas Eve" at one home and "Christmas Day" at the other home. Each home gets a bit of it! The kids get two trees and two sets of presents. I could see wanting a combined one if one of you, say, visits extended family for Christmas and that trip is important to your kids. Whatever works for you!
