She is stating that she wants to have weekly meals, common birthdays, and general fun time with the kids at the park. Common rituals. I said no. We are no longer that sort of family, we now do our own thing. Our own rituals. Maybe monthly, maybe only special occasions.
"No, that doesn't work for me."
Originally Posted by tt180
Early in the week she throw stuff off the table and kicked some bags out of anger. Most likely because she just got a letter from my L. The kids came out running to me upset. I called her out and said it could be considered domestic violence.
Originally Posted by tt180
S8 is quite honest and said this is what happened, but it's not something I can pursue further. My point was made, I'm going to call her out on that sort of behavior.
My XW *was* abusive and I won primary custody for a decade. If you feel domestic violence is occurring: (a) Call the police to document the incident even if you can't prove it. You say you and your son said similar things--that has weight! Especially if it happens again. (b) record your son's or any other witnesses' testimony while it's fresh, (c) whatever you do DON'T move out--that isn't best for your littlest one when you could delay the D to protect her and get more custody. If you don't feel domestic violence is occurring then I'd suggest stop criticizing her. Ratcheting up her anger towards you won't lead to the best possible settlement, co-parenting relationship, or parenting behaviors.
