She is stating that she wants to have weekly meals, common birthdays, and general fun time with the kids at the park. Common rituals.
As a family.
I said no. We are no longer that sort of family, we now do our own thing. Our own rituals. Maybe monthly, maybe only special occasions. The reason I say this is that she is toxic, manipulative, and possibly a narc. It's in my best interest to minimise contact as much as possible.
Early in the week she throw stuff off the table and kicked some bags out of anger. Most likely because she just got a letter from my L. The kids came out running to me upset. I called her out and said it could be considered domestic violence. Because I didn't see it, she saying it didn't happen, it's not DV, and all the other things you can imagine. I know D11 saw it, because she was upset when it happened. But I believe W manipulated her because D11 is now saying she didn't see it. S8 is quite honest and said this is what happened, but it's not something I can pursue further. It doesn't bother me, it's just another thing to gaslight me about. My point was made, I'm going to call her out on that sort of behavior.
I had a great chat with a friend who is divorced and my L. I realise now the manipulation and excuses STBXW will make in order to reduce my access to children. I feel confident I have a good plan and I can always end mediation with let me check with my L.
