So she didn't really want kids and then had a child on the spectrum? That's a tough hand to be dealt.
Be aware that the odds of having a second child on the spectrum are higher after you've had one - from a 2017 study: "The sibling recurrence rate, defined as the probability of a child having ASD with 1 or more siblings with ASD, has been estimated to be 6.1% to 18.7%"
Would you have the energy and the means to deal with two autistic children, especially if a second was more severely affected?
