Need advice: wife of 10 years wants out (2)

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PeterB,

But I have been thinking that having another child will be great - 2 is what I always wanted, and it won't happen with her - she delayed the first one by years, which has been a negative undercurrent in our M.

Having another child should be about the last thing on your mind right now.

And then she wouldn't even discuss about having a 2nd one until my own unhappiness reached a point where I did not want to go through that with her.

Why do you think she didn't want a 2nd? Did your resentment about this impact the relationship?

Then suddenly as recently as early Oct she told me we should think about a 2nd child. I did not say no but I did not commit either. And then in Dec she starts and A.

Often times a person tries to "find happiness" through major life changes (affair, divorce, new kid...etc.), thinking these things will "make them happy", not realizing they have to look inward.

2. Turn off social media

I am only on FB and I log in once every 3 or 4 days. I rarely post. Inevitably, her posts show up on top of my timeline. Today she posted about 10 pics, telling people to glimpse into her past few months - the pics were with her friends and son and none with me .

Seems like an excuse. At least "unfollow" her so her posts don't pop up, causing you to spin.

I get that you can’t stamp out 100% of interactions with IHS and without blocking her phone etc. But there’s way too many opportunities for you two to interact. You need to absolutely minimise every possible chance.

We are in a pretty farcical IHS. Even if I try to minimize, she actively interacts. I have to pay more attention to this.

What are you doing to get out of the house and GAL?