Originally Posted by BL42
DBX80,

I noticed you online recently and re-read your thread. How about an update?

Did W/ExW? end up filing for D? Did it finalize? Any more cupcakes or dog pics? More importantly, how are you doing...have you improved yourself and make your life awesome?

Hope all is well...
Hello BL42. I suppose an update is in order.

Yes, she filed for divorce and everything was finalized last summer. Later this month will be our one-year anniversary of divorce.

And yes, she still brings cupcakes every so often, and still sends dog pics. I assume it’s her way of trying to be friends with me, but of course I’m not interested in that, so I don’t pay it much mind anymore.

One of our dogs passed away last year unexpectedly, and that was traumatizing for the both of us.

Anyways, as part of the divorce decree, we agreed that I would have custody of the remaining dog during the week, and she would have the weekends. So I do see her sometimes when she’s dropping off or picking up the dog. When I do see her, she always tries to chat me up, as if nothing happened and as if we’re the best of friends. Of course I’m cordial during these interactions, but it does create a bit of cognitive dissonance for me. So lately, I’ve been trying to avoid being present during the drop-offs and pick-ups. I don’t know if that’s healthy, or if it makes me look weak.

Sometimes she also texts me about random stuff that has nothing to do with the dog. For example, last week she texted me about a new tv show she was watching, telling me that I should watch it too because she thinks I would enjoy it. Again, she’s acting like nothing has happened and like we’re best friends. It’s disconcerting. I replied to her text merely saying, “Thanks.”

This summer, it will be 3 years since the bomb drop. I feel like if she was going to try and reconcile, it would have happened by now. Three years is a long time.

I’ve been going on dates, but nothing serious. I’ve discovered that dating nowadays is kind of a nightmare, and I don’t really look forward to it, to be honest. I don’t know how people do it. 😂