It’s now just days away to the 5th anniversary of BD. The first few years there was a fair bit of contact, then last two years it has dwindled to almost nothing or just a few contacts a month. None of the contacts suggested any change in his MLC brain until recently. Last month he asked for my help in finding a tenant for his apartment. I’ve had lots of experience being a landlord while he has had none so I helped for no other reason than It’s just who I am. I would give the same help to anyone who asked. I didn’t assume anything about his request for help either because we are on good terms and it would make no sense for him to ask anyone else.
Here is the part I am wondering about and would like opinions on. He told me he would like to take me to dinner to thank me for my help. In the past we have never gone to dinner but on rare occasions to a pub for a drink and pub food, but never for dinner. He suggested we go to a new restaurant in the area that he had checked out and looked good. So I agreed. He was going to pick me up but it’s walking distance from me so I declined and met him there instead. I got there first and was surprised to see the restaurant was dimly lit with candles at the tables, live music and a dance floor with flashing lights. It looked like a restaurant for a romantic date night. He selected a table right on the edge of the dance floor although there was no one dancing being it was a weeknight. But it was a dark atmosphere and we had to read the menu by candlelight. The conversation during dinner was typical of what you would expect if you didn’t know your dining partner that well. Nothing remotely personal but pleasant nonetheless. But I noticed several times during the dinner that he was holding eye contact far longer than typical and I was always the first one to break contact. I was slightly uncomfortable about it as well. It’s been ages since I held onto any hope for our marriage and I now find I resist any thought of reconciling. I do wonder though if he has advanced somewhat on his MLC path.
What do you all think? It’s not much but it is definitely different than it has been since BD. And I find myself moving away from what I see are movements toward me, if that is what they are.
