No such luck

[DonH]

Well I wish I could argue or debate you that there are all of these high quality single people out there. I wish I could but I can’t - at least not when it comes to women. I have to believe it’s the same for men as well. That’s why I’ve continue to say most all of the good ones are taken. They’ve never been divorced or cheated or become a WAS. That part does stink and you are accurate. The quality women I meet are taken. The men you meet are low quality. Then again you’re back OLD so I’m not shocked.

I’ve been D’d over 15 years now and can’t say I regret a good one getting away in that time. I guess that’s good. I don’t have any “if only I had” loops running. On top of that my list of quality women who don’t at all care to date grows. I’m well into double digits with them. Not just no interest in dating me - they have not had a BF in many many years. Some have not dated in years. One was a pretty successful model and is still very pretty. Another a financial broker. Another owns her own small business. The latest one I’m lucky if we get together once a month. Imagine that I actually want more interaction than she does!

Sorry, didn’t intend to make this about me and clearly this is not going to cheer you up but if all you’re finding is broken, yeah, I have too plus add in those with no yearning to date. I just seem to remember you talking about at least a few guys who really wanted to date you and you even said you can’t find anything wrong with them yet you had no interest. Are you changing that story now? I swear there was a few but you could not bring yourself to give them the chance they appeared to deserve. Yet broken cowboy got a huge chance. I guess that’s what I’m seeing.

My renewed fav radio psychologist lost her husband a few years ago and says these exact things. She’s pickier than I am and doesn’t think she will ever find someone worthy. She’s mot given up but no longer tries. Maybe that’s the story with those dozens I know. It’s also why I’ve not gone on nearly the number of dates you have, mostly by choice. At least you’re still trying and rolling the dice.

I stand by that overall you handled this well. Certainly room for improvement but well. I wish I had better news. It’s not hopeless but it’s also a huge challenge. FWIW it didn’t get really bad until my early 50s. So by that calculation you’ve still got at least 8 decent years to go.

HAVE A VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!