Going to MC with a WAS is never going to work. Of course it was difficult for her, she wants out of the marriage and MC is pressure and pursuit to stay in it. And of course the MC wants to do a follow-up, it is how they make money!
IC is much better. The fact that she agreed to do IC as followups and then canceled the IC is all the proof you need to know that, quite bluntly, she has no desire to save or work on the marriage. So this is where you doubledown on DBing. GAL (sounds like you are doing fairly well here), self-improvement (More IC, less MC (in fact, no MC!), and work on emotional detachment. Your latest update shows you are still too worried and invested in what she is doing. "She canceled IC." "She is camping with our boys without me." Etc. That shows that her words and actions still have too much of an emotional impact on you, which you readily admit emotions have too much sway over you. So work through that in IC!
Remember, her only power over you is the power you give her.
Last edited by SteveLW; 06/01/2202:57 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
