Curtain Call

[SteveLW]

Okay, a couple of observations from your previous thread.

First, I found this smack in the middle of it:

I have come to the conclusion that our marriage can't be saved. There is just to much pain on both are parts. So I am going dark other than issues with kids. I'm going to join the gym again and get back out there. Once the dust has settled I will have the divorce talk with her and move it all forward

Now you come and start with, right off the bat, you don't want to save the marriage. Do you really not want to save the marriage? Or is this the same "this is going to be too hard so I am just going to give up" thing again? I will take you at your word if you say you don't want to save it, but lots of LBSs consider just pulling the plug themselves because it seems easier and quicker. The quickest way through the pain isn't always the best for you.

Secondly, you said your thread didn't get much traction. Yet I see a lot of former posters in there giving you a lot of pretty solid advice! You'd think them for the advice and then your next update would be about how you had another relationship talk. None of the advice was to "talk to her more" yet you'd read the advice and then the next update was more "her and I talked" or "I told her X". So I think your thread got the very traction that you gave it. Then you gave one final update about her wanting you to move in with her again, and then disappeared. These threads get the traction the OP gives them. The forum did its part. BL42 asked for an update on the MR, I think it would help if you responded with it.