I don't have any alternatives to your approach. I'm clear on why and what needs to be done. I just lose a bit of focus now and then when STBXW complicates, blocks, frustrates, etc. I'm also nervous because I don't fully trust where she is going with D. In actual fact though, I've been supportive of moving forward some aspects of my upcoming D. I've proactively sought out mediation with someone we agree on, we will talk about a parenting plan in two weeks, and I'm about to finalise a L to kick off a financial settlement that is fair. After the parenting plan is in place, I'm going to propose we start the selling process of our house EARLIER, rather than later. Because I need my space now, not in 7 months.
I admit I'm hard on myself, frustrated that for once I understand why the R failed, but not able to work on that. But that's not entirely true. I've gotten a deeper friendship with a close friend. We have very similar upbringings and it's a connection I've never had before. It's validating to hear him say that I'm visibly happier. Happier because it's been a VERY long time since I've hade any sort of plan in my life. Happier because I know where I want to go and how to do it. It's just the trees are blocking my view of the forest.
