This is not against the grain, this IS the grain! Peter, see my response in Toughtimes thread. I would word it a bit different though. Peter, start moving your own life forward. She'll either like what she sees or she won't, but the sex, breakfast, and hanging out certainly are not working.
Btw I was not preparing breakfast in a mushy romantic good morning sort of way . I woke up hungry, so I had to make a breakfast item anyway and I had already made up my mind to feed him breakfast. She does the same thing. As I said earlier, none of my house duties have gone away and neither has her habit of screaming at me that I don't do anything.