Finally! You have found a lawyer that you like and is sticking to the facts. It has taken you a long time to find just the right lawyer who will fight for you and your children. I hope he can help you see the light at the end of the tunnel and have this divorce/settlement business settled very soon.
Gerda, you are a fighter and at the end of the day, you will walk away and hopefully your h will be in your rearview mirror for good. As for your children, I think your son has him figured out already, but your daughter will need time to see the light.
Hang in there! Sending positive thoughts your way.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.