I'm going to go against the grain here, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
After reading your most recent interactions with your W, I would call her bluff and agree with her that D is probably best. Flip the script on her and make her feel like you are now the one leaving her. I'm not suggesting that you act like a jerk, quite the contrary. I would start acting like she has finally killed all your love for her, and that you are now happy and content to move forward in life without her.
Stop having sex with her, stop making her breakfast, stop accepting her invites to hang out. Be a great father, be civil with your W, validate her feelings, and then agree with her every time she mentions divorce. Start being mysterious, like you have finally had an epiphany that your life without her is going to be epic!
My point is that I don't think she really wants a divorce, she is doing everything in her power to convince herself though. She's constantly baiting you (great job not taking the bait btw) and insulting you. I think a man eventually has to command respect, because if your partner doesn't respect you, they can't love you.
Call her bluff. And if calling her bluff is the final straw, give her what she wants and let her go.
This is not against the grain, this IS the grain! Peter, see my response in Toughtimes thread. I would word it a bit different though. Peter, start moving your own life forward. She'll either like what she sees or she won't, but the sex, breakfast, and hanging out certainly are not working.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
