I'm sure this is a come up many times on the boards but I do want to get an opinion. An angry WW certainly exhibits narcissistic behavior, and right now in my sitch, ignoring me seems to be the only power left to her. Does anyone have any experience of a true narsasisst? What I'm trying to say is I found this great definition on quora that explains what is a covert or vulnerable narcissist and it fits my WW to the tee. I'm going to mediation for a parenting plan, so it'll be interesting to see if these tendencies play out. It explains so well why we can't negotiate and how she goes off when criticized. I feel I've been duped the entire marriage.
Look, I get it that I'm guilty of rewriting history, but when I sort through what I was missing all these years, and the struggles, it just seems to make total sense that a covert narcissist would love a nice guy like me to control. And avoiding the conflict delays the outbursts and preserves her self-esteem.
I wonder if it's really healthy for me to have this reflection, or if I should focus on moving on, and ensuring I don't fall for this again in the future.
I told my L if the parenting plan negotiations go poorly, or shows that she really doesn't negotiate (justifies) it will be L to L for the rest of the D journey.
Just some random thoughts for the day. Her overt abuse is gone, the games are now less frequent and intense.
