Peter says it well. You can’t stop her from “disrespecting you”. You only control how you react. Do you expend energy and escalate by arguing with her (attached behavior) or do you hang up, leave the room, ignore her (detached behavior)?
The latter. I've wasted no energy in the last 6 weeks on any escalation. In fact, since day one. I've not escalated with anger. I only made one mistake where I knew if I talked about a subject, she'd go off. And she did. But certainly I expend no energy on escalation. The improvement I have is letting some things slide. But I've gotten better, and recently I've made some pretty assertive boundaries, much to her surprise.
