The GAL and the 180s should be about who you want to be and how you want to live your life. Regardless of what happens, you get to keep the GAL and the 180s. I'm pretty happy these days and I think it is because I chose my GAL and 180s wisely. I recommend taking some time to think of where you want to be if your marriage ends and pursuing that relentlessly because you will get to that place. That's what I did and it worked out well. For me, it also had the effect of prompting the STBXW to move toward D at a glacial pace. So, if you want to delay your D, it definitely helps.
