Wolfman moving forward 3

[Traveler]

Wolf, thanks for the context. I don't think you were wrong to call the cops to de-escalate. I've seen enough situations go south. I get that was a traumatic event for her (betrayal) and you (worried about harm to your baby).

You seemed to bounce back and be on an upswing after summer--

Things with the GF are getting better. I am learning to be patient, that she just wants the best for our baby. Also, realize that she is going through changes hormonally and slack of sleep. I am working on not taking things so personally and just moving forward. The nice thing is to see my GF and my son starting to build a relationship again. They are talking more and joking more. It really makes me so happy.

I am always wrong and bad. My mental health is being really affected. She actually said to me yesterday That she is my woman and I should be putting her on a pedastil.

You're putting her flaws on display. We tend to do this when we're ready to give up. What would you need to slow down, remember your dreams of a future, remember why you loved her?

BL I dont want this relationship to fail, I really don't. But I am running out of options. There is literally no talking to her.

Rewind, then. A few days ago kml, Valeska, Dawn, and I suggested doing the "Next right things" by asking her out on a romantic date. Also, staying awake for her quality time.

Valeska made some solid points, e.g. "Would you do that for your son?" (is she an equal). Also, sensing you are near your tipping point, do you need to pull back elsewhere? The goal is balance plus a thing or two as a gift out of love.

You say your mental health is spiraling. Can you talk to an IC before the long weekend?

What will you do to make this long weekend a success? I'm hoping you're setting aside Wolf alone time, Wolf & GF dating time, and GF alone time. "A failure to plan is a plan to fail."

All I hear is how I betrayed her trust and how dare I call the cops on her. This was last summer and she brings it up every once and a while how I hurt her and how she doesn't trust me. Its amazing that she does not want to see the part she played in all of it. I would like her to just take accountability for her actions once and a while

Wolf, I support calling the cops, but as with your XW and D drop any fantasies she'll ever believe she was wrong and you were right. You can help by processing why you need her to agree on rightness or wrongness. Personally, I'd be curious to hear why she feels calling the police to de-escalate the situation was a betrayal of her trust. Was it the call or what you said to the cops or pulling in her dad? When our feelings are heard without judgment it helps greatly.