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[Wolfman]

To finish my story:
The cops then insisted that she leave the home since I called the cops on her. She was really upset and said she couldn't leave the baby because she was breast feeding. We had a bunch of breast milk in the fridge that I could have given him. I wanted her to leave because she really needed to cool down. The other part was since she was breast feeding she should be there with the baby. The cops said if she cant leave because of the breast feeding and I was not going to leave the home what can we do? So, the cops suggested if there was a family member to come over to keep the peace. They would not obviously just leave us alone. So, we were able to have gf dad come over. He is a great man in respect, he is very intelligent and doesn't take sides, he just goes by what happened. The cops waited for him to come and when he arrived they left. To make a long story a little shorter he tried to explain to her that she was acting irrationally, and feels she may have some post partum going on.
Since this situation she takes no ownership in her part of that day. All I hear is how I betrayed her trust and how dare I call the cops on her. This was last summer and she brings it up every once and a while how I hurt her and how she doesn't trust me. Its amazing that she does not want to see the part she played in all of it. Look maybe I could of waited longer before calling the cops, maybe over time she would have calmed down. She also needs to understand that grabbing for the baby was very dangerous, what if I would have dropped him. Her banging on the door tried to basically break the door down. But I am the bad one for calling the cops to stop the situation from getting worse. Its one of those things when you are removed form the situation you can think of a lot of other things you could have done. Also, I didn't mention, when she was trying to grab the baby from my arms, she grabbed my arm so hard that it was actually black and blue after. So that is the full story and why she does not trust me.

BL I dont want this relationship to fail, I really don't. But I am running out of options. There is literally no talking to her. I am always wrong and bad. Look I am not looking to be right all the time either. I would like her to just take accountability for her actions once and a while. I am reaching my breaking point, of ending this relationship. My mental health is being really affected.

Traveler- great question. If you talk to her about the incident, she was only leaving to take a break and that she was going to come back the same day. I said to her, then why were you packing up all that stuff? So, she gaslights me saying I was over reacting that she did not pack up that much stuff. We already have a diaper bag ready to go at all times with diapers, wipes, clothes and other various products. She was packing up a bunch of his clothes, I know what I saw her doing. That day was all my fault and I betrayed her trust. Long tern consequence is she can't let that go. She lets these things linger and resentment build up. I ask her all the time what can I do to help her heal and she says nothing, just time. This is just a terrible situation.