Perfect is the enemy of the good. If I'd waited around for the perfect guy I would have never been in a relationship in all these years since my divorce. Everybody has some baggage at this age.
Indeed. The question is - do they acknowledge it and deal with it on their own or not.
That was part of the reasons B and I split. She had unresolved baggage with her xH - who as far as I know she went back to - and with her oldest son. I still think she did the smart and mature thing by recognizing that as well as some fundamental incompatibilities between us. I learned a lot from that time.
S on the other hand was more than happy to be the distressed damsel and just take and expected everyone one else to deal with her issues. Always had an excuse.
It's been more than a year and half since then. Still reluctant to put myself out there. I like to think I'm smarter, and certainly less trusting and optimistic than I was.
I certainly have my own baggage. I have two kids who while they don't take up a lot of time or effort, are a priority if they need me. I tend to work too many hours including on weekends, I'll spend hours doing things that I could probably just hire someone to do. I'm attached to my house and the area I live in and wouldn't be interested in moving etc etc. Things that would make me incompatible with some people. I've also noticed a disturbing tendency to neglect to close the bathroom door
A neighbour of mine once opined that she felt that the longer someone lives alone, the more that they like it. Certainly seems to be the case for me.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
