Had a little pleasant text chat with the first guy I dated after my ex left. (He's the one who broke up with me to date his old high school love, and is still with her - sort of. In a Love Avoidant way where they live 10 hours apart and she comes to visit him occasionally). We are still friends and stay slightly in touch.
We reminisced a bit about our time together and it's nice to know he still remembers it fondly. I just couldn't compete with the nostalgia of his old love. It did get me to thinking, though, how would my life have turned out if she hadn't shown up? Would I have stayed in that relationship - he was darned sexy and intellectually compatible - or would I have left eventually because at some point I would have wanted more than he offered? I suspect the latter, although a long distance relationship like that doesn't look so bad to me anymore. He's one of two guys I dated since my divorce who were the most compatible - with the glaring exception that neither of them were really available for a real relationship, Love Avoidants both. Sigh.
CMM had his issues - several of them - but he loved me deeply and was not the least bit avoidant. Guess at this age you can't have everything.
