I wonder if he was sloppy with the card charges or if he is looking for that jolt…that jolt in a reaction from you that you still care? For his own ego or selfishness? As for your MIL, it doesn’t sound like she is the one you should look to for the reality of the situation (considering you mention past issues and distance). It might be hard to explain her rationale, and it could be very selfish and have nothing to do with you. I know it still hurts, but maybe feeling the love and connection you have with the rest of the family will help you to focus less on your MIL and the perceived replacing of you? I suspect that their opinions matter more and you feel safe in their feelings for you?
TBH, don't know and don't care. I only did what I thought was good for me, and that is letting him know I don't want anything to do with that anymore. In regards to MIL, she really is a lost, bitter and tormented soul. And I'm glad I don't have to deal with her anymore. She caused enough pain.
