PeterB, But it's not that I felt moved, other than pissed off.
That's great.
Originally Posted by toughtimes180
In any event, WW made a big deal in front of the kids that she's telling her entire family that we've separated.
It is unnecessary to make a big deal in front of the kids and imho this can lead to negative effects on them. Btw, watch out for her trying to make you the villain in your children's eyes. It does not matter if they already have figured her out - she may still try to salvage some reputation out of this. Based on some reading my understanding is that WWs are especially keen on making the children believe that the father is the villain.
Originally Posted by toughtimes180
She's also back to her critique of any little thing that I do wrong, or whatever is wrong in her mind at that exact moment. I'm not reacting, but it's a good reminder of the toxicity of my M.
Take this reminder as a blessing. My WW is hypercritical of everything I do wrong (wrong in her eyes). Yesterday she informed me tersely that she washed all the dishes (there were two of them and some spoons/forks, nothing of mine). And then added angrily that she had to do it only because I did not clear the dishwasher. We had just come back from a weekend activity one hour earlier, and I was fully occupied with housework after that while she was having her dinner. So, I didn't get the time to clear the dishwasher. Yet she thought that was a big problem. I was left wondering if she was really ignoring that I was busy (and hence deliberately nasty) or if she genuinely didn't see me running about across the floors doing multiple things. I assessed if the priority of things I did was wrong, but it was not. I also noted that clearing the dishwasher was neither on the agenda at that time nor did she request me to clear it. This is toxicity, and even more so post BD - pre-D. For LBS such as us, facing these situations while being able to identify them for what they are, allows us to put things in perspective while making our own decisions.
