tt180, given your push for a divorce, tactics to maximize R don't seem so important. I'd focus on what's best for your bond with your kids and your kids' bonds with each other.
Originally Posted by tt180
D2 (I look after D2 while D1 and S have times with her)
That's a strange schedule! I haven't seen siblings split up in the US since the 80s! Now everyone keeps their kids together to foster sibling bonds, which often endure longer than parental bonds.
Do Australian child psychologists support splitting up kids as best for the kids?
If not, why agree to such a schedule?
Originally Posted by tt180
There are some nice things happening in my local area, and with a young D2, I have to work together with STBXW. Is it out of line to invite her to a family outing?
If you can switch to a normal parenting schedule this melts away entirely. You go do things with all the children, or she goes and does things with all the children, no coordination.
In the meantime, if you feel it would be beneficial for D2, D1, and S to go to an event together, by all means propose it. That's key for me--what's best for my children.
