Peter I think you have a chance to turn this around and I don't say that often. So much of this is timing and opportunity. The fact that OM lives far away doesn't give the monkey a very sturdy branch. You need to tighten up your game and GAL like a madman. You want to display to her that you will be just fine without her. If you can do that and stay consistent with no setbacks I think you have a punchers chance.
I'm GAL'ing but unable to "GAL like a madman", because of responsibilities at home. Two points:
- It is unclear if she will feel my absence just by physical circumstances, as such circumstances are not there (such as staying in different households and LBS is not giving fks). I am preprogrammed to do a lot around the house and for my son and that is just me. Not doing anything or reducing it is not a 180 I'm comfortable with, and it would appear to be "more of the same" (in MWD's words) as she has always of complained that I don't do anything around the house. "I don't do anything" complaints must have reached absurd proportions in her mind leading up to BD (as she built up her case for D). And they were shocking at and after BD itself (during the inevitable discussions during and just after). I actually don't care anymore what she thinks if I continue all my responsibilities at home or even increase them. This is perhaps a form of detachment.
- Otoh it is clear that she will register that I will be just fine without her, as long as I GAL consistently and stay true to myself at the same time. I am doing new fun things that I never used to do before, staying positive at all times, staying focused on the goals as well as greatly enjoying the journey towards those goals etc.
