IMHO, you’re DBing like a boss - Coming here for advice first, not engaging, not arguing, extricating yourself from discussions etc.
Thanks for your kind words. DB'ing is making me feel light despite the possibility of my family falling apart and my son growing up without a traditional family and the pain he would have to go through.
Originally Posted by Kind18
... and wondering why she can’t push your buttons any more.
She is certainly not succeeding in pressing my buttons anymore. I used to be very easy to trigger. I recall telling her during many fights that she knew how to press my buttons. I used to wonder how easily she did it even though I would point out some of my trigger points and implore her not to press those. I can't believe I used to fall so easily. I should have been emotionally stronger.
Originally Posted by Kind18
Whatever you do, keep it up. No discussions. No talking about her affair. Don’t give a hint about what you’re thinking. No acknowledgment you know anything about an affair, nor show any care about anything she does. No relationship talks, no arguments, no anger, no shouting, just a smile no matter what and keep busy.
Great summary. Thanks.
Originally Posted by Kind18
Every time she tries to pin you down for something, have an excuse READY TO GO.... ...ALWAYS have an exit strategy planned in advance.
A bit hard to preplan given our live-in and parenting situation. It a "pre-IHS" if I may call it that. But yeah, I should probably have a few just to be able to apply in some situations. "I have to work", "I need to sleep", "I need to go out to meet X", "I need to go to Home Depot / REI" are probably general enough.
