It's interesting on the point of trying validation and IHS. STBXWF is having emotional outbursts in email when I delay and respond to what's good for me. IRL, she's avoiding me and really not engaging. In fact she has been rude at my validation attempts in email or in person. Not that I consider myself overdoing it. But it's interesting to see.
It's also interesting to she how she's slowly realizing I mean business. When I suggested one of her points required advice, she went off I had no right to get an L without her permission (even though I never used the L word). When I politely emailed it's not her concern, I'm free to get legal advice, and that if we don't use a guided property settlement service (which is a cheaper way to do it with legal advice), she realized it was the best option. I'm pleased because it will validate she is way off. And I know I'm good there because I already got a second opinion which confirmed her views are out of this world. It's just astounding to see the cake eating.
Anyway, I'm feeling more positive about getting some control, and at least one compromise. And now I'm off to meet an old friend who went through a nasty D. It'll be good to get some tips.
