Sorry about your situation. It must be stressful to deal with drama on two fronts.
Quick question - why do you see (have partial custody of?) S12, but not D14? What's the background?
Lots of good discussion and advice from others, so I won't reiterate everything, but this jumped out...
Originally Posted by Wolfman
I am having problems with my current gf. She is having a hard time “sharing” me with my s.
The reality is you have two children from another marriage. That will never change. If your girlfriend can't accept that, it's a major red flag for her and should probably be a deal breaker if it persists. S12 and D14 are always going to have to be a top priority in your life. Not that they're more important than your new baby, but they should be equally as important. Do not let your GF push them aside and out of your life. Your children (all of them) should be your #1 priority, not your GF or ExW.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
