Yes and no. The valid complaints are around supporting the kids, so I'm working to lift that.
Great... so when she comes heated at you about the kids.. you can remember this and answer with kindness. Doesn't mean that you don't deserve time with them. But understanding and validating her anger should lead to a different approach.
Originally Posted by toughtimes180
Communicating, I'm trying to improve, but she has the same problem. .
Keep the focus on you. Doesn't do any good to say she has it too.
Originally Posted by toughtimes180
The last issue is not being close and vulnerable. I don't know how that could ever be addressed in DB scenario.
Actually vulnerability has alot to do with communication. It has alot to do with listening to how she feels and using validating sentences. Brene Brown talks about it quite a bit - if you want to check it out.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
