Hey everyone. It’s been a while. My d is 14. Still haven’t seen or spoken to her since October.
That is tough Wolf and I am sorry to hear.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
And of course now in my life, I am having problems with my current gf. She is having a hard time “sharing” me with my s. He is 12.
Yeah being divorced with young kids is tough. Decisions can not be made lightly.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
It’s a constant stress for me. She feels like I am putting her 2nd. The thing is I don’t make anyone number 1. I try to make everyone a priority. In doing so, I am completely stressed out. My gf is very immature and does not know how to let go of past hurts.
Most of us ended up here because our exs couldn't let go of past hurts.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Example, a year and a half ago. Judge order CPS to go to my home and the ex’s home. The day CPS was going to her home, I was supposed to get my s. She kept him there (he had a cold). Now keep in mind CPS came to my house first and spoke with my s in private. And everything was fine. At her house he was forced to lie by his mom, and said some things about my gf. She can’t seem to let it go. And she holds on to that tightly. Bringing it up on occasion, why sometimes she won’t do things for him or go to his basketball games.
I feel sorry for your son.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
It has literally got to a point, if I don’t agree with her or do what she wants it becomes and argument. I am reaching my breaking point in this relationship.
Sounds like a lack of respect here. You definitely have things to consider.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
She actually said to me the other day my opinion doesn’t matter. It was about the baby napping. Her reason was she is home all the time with the baby and she knows what’s best for him. I don’t know what to do anymore. This is no way to live. Stress from the ex. Stress from the current one. Oh and in the last year there is nothing going on in the bedroom.
Yikes. Sounds horrible and more baby momma drama in the future.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
So many of you were so right, there were red flags but I was so broken and it just felt good someone showing interest in me.
When you are in the thick of it you tend to ignore the red flags or downgrade them to yellow flags. The problem with that is you can ignore reality but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.
