Oh, and WRT lawyers - I sense the same thing. You think it might be easier and less painful if you are gentle and don’t drop her in the lap if your big-bad lawyer.
I’m sorry, DB rules say you can’t nice a WAS/WS back, but it also applies to settlement - you can’t nice them to good financial orders or children’s orders.
The whole thing is a bloody mess. There’s a finite amount of money and time with kids, and it’s NEVER a nice fight. I think you should accept that whether there’s a lawyer, or no lawyer, or if the money split is fair/not fair, or if the custody split is 50:50 or not, or if it’s sunny today or raininf - nothing you can do right now will make this woman happy.
Better off just accepting she’s going to blow the world up no matter what, hitching your big boy pants up and getting on with it. And the best way to get on with it is to pay a lawyer so you can spend your time on you. Hobbies, counselling, being social, camping, 4x4, getting fit - let the lawyer deal with trying to keep her happy!
