Yeah, thanks. I feel I'm just overwhelmed with the idea of not having control, that she is calling all shots. My work is very flexible, so I'm prepared to take care of D2 many times a week. Reframed as kid time, and we discussed this in earlier threads, who cares about her motivations. I don't mind, so long as it's in writing, to do pick-ups and events on non-custodial days. In writing is key, otherwise I see wriggle room.
It's the "oh weather is good, let's all go to the beach" or "I'll pick up the kids from school for some afternoon fun, then return them go you", or "the cousins are at grandmas, come over". That is what I object to. These are things she actually said to me two weeks ago. Of course there is value in shared family time, but it feels to me she wants life as it is now, but just that I live somewhere down the road.
