Complaints about things I didn't do properly while looking after the kids last night.
Is this a new dynamic?
Originally Posted by tt180
This is something I can't get my head around. Some of the complaints are valid, some are not relaistic, others I would never think of, and could never consider. I validate, but always have struggled with what is reasonable and what is not. My approach is to improve on what I'm capable of, validate all her concerns, and not be bothered by the rest.
You can validate any emotion, you can actively listen to any concern, but don't forget it's totally okay to also AGREE when her point makes sense and APOLOGIZE once when you goof. You don't want to be Mr. SorryForEverything, but there's strength in being reasonable and recognizing mistakes.
You can share here if you're not sure if her complaint's reasonable. It sounds like with the complaints you have a good approach and head on your shoulders.
