I'm Back after 1st DB (4)

[BL42]

toughtimes180,

I don't know anything about parenting plans, I thought a 10-pager was where it is at. A two-pager sounds nicer than 10. But she hasn't responded, so let's see. I like the idea of late clauses. How does that work?

I don't know about late clauses, but I recommend making a precise list for any Holidays you want to alternate outside of your regular week transitions. Literally list them in rows (Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, Australia Day...whatever is important to you) and make a column for odd years and even years. Include Mother's Day for W and Father's Day for you. Include alternating the kids' birthdays, and maybe school breaks. Table format is easiest. It might save you some confusion, disagreements, and grief in the future. My ExW and I are still feeling things out in that area.

STBXW sent me an anniversary card saving she loves me and thanks me for the wonderful family we created. It was actually touching. It was even a greeting card specifically for Exs.

Maybe it's just where I am in the process, but it seems more nauseating and emotionally manipulative to me than touching. Why would you thank someone for creating a wonderful family...which you're actively working to break apart? Don't read anything into it or let it get your hopes up.

I did say thanks and walked away, but not sure if I respond later, if at all.

I vote no response. Toss it in the trash bin. Perhaps she'll see it lying there and wonder.