If she is like every other spouse of the posters here, no matter what your proposal is, she won't like it. That is why we said for her to draft up what she wants. Most likely you will not like that either, but at least you can make some logical counter proposals.
You have and adversarial relationship now. Like it or not. That does not mean you can't come to agreements. It will just be much harder. The layers feed off of this. Like it or not.
This is why YOU stand on equal and frequent contact with both parents. The older the kids get the longer they can go between seeing each parent. A firm landing ground is what you are seeking in the written agreement.
I strongly suggest concrete exchange times and a "drop off parent". Whoever had the kids dropped them off with the other parent. Otherwise (pick up parenting) you are waiting around at the other parents house waiting....Or worse, you are negotiating every exchange.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
