In her mind she would be like, is this guy so desperate that he tries to sweep things under the rug?
Would "sweeping it under the rug" be a fair assessment?
Originally Posted by "Ready2Change, 1 month ago"
Do not share with her WHAT you know. Do not share with her HOW you know. You can and should (at the right time) share that you DO KNOW.
"We both know that is a lie. If you are willing to speak the truth, I will listen."
Originally Posted by "Traveller, 1 month ago."
If you choose sex, read up on being safe with casual sex partners who are simultaneously sleeping with others. Common precautions include condoms and regular STI screenings. As they say, if you aren't ready to talk about safe sex, you're not ready to have it!
Now you know you figured it out because she's been dropping hints. Now she knows your response was to ignore it, continue to patch things up, and continue having sex. The curtain has been pulled back. Are you proud of your choices? Were they made out of desperation or something else?
Originally Posted by Peter
The point that begs action at this time is that if she truly knows that I know about her A then I think it is time to talk to her about it.
I've never been cheated on. I'm sorry you have. I agree the facade is gone. DB frowns on Talky and prefers Actions. What would you hope to get from a Talky? Have you considered setting any boundaries--it sounds like you want the sex to continue?! If so, reconsider setting a boundary of wearing a condom and/or requiring her to get STI tested before sex. Each time you sleep with a casual sex partner without protection you increase your chances of catching something. We hear it too often here.
