I’m not in Australia, but in my mediation, we had a mediator, but my ex and I each had our own attorney on the outside that we consulted with between sessions.
You want her to have her own attorney when the time comes, someone who can tell her what is and isn’t reasonable. Basically their job was to let us know what a judge would probably decide if we went to court. If her expectations are unreasonable they will let her know.
Meanwhile, stop negotiating with her. Just say “I’ll discuss this with my attorney”. She’s trying to bully you into giving her everything she wants.
