Still - why did you stay after she cheated twice in the first year of marriage?
I don’t know that I can give a reason that would make sense to anyone. Her emotional affair, if that’s all it was, seemed to make no sense. She seemed so broken that it had happened. There was so much regret. I didn’t know what to do.
Then the physical affair. It broke me. I seriously thought about leaving but I simply asked her what she wanted after the dust settled and considered my role. I believe that being a husband requires a forgiving heart without judgement of regret and want to change is there. The problem is that she isn’t very good at setting her sights past her emotions. And maybe I had grown too dependent upon her to leave. I didn’t realize in the beginning she lavished loving behavior so much on me that I needed it for being happy. I should have realized then that I needed some safety net and safer boundaries.
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10
