Pack I'll let you in on a little secret - for Mother's day my son made me a card. He wrote what I hoped he would feel as a 30 year old (he's 22): that he knows I'm his #1 supporter and that he knows he can always depend on me and hopes I will be able to do the same with him.

He's also told me more than once over the past two years that he knows I've always put his needs and what's best for him ahead of my own, especially in relation to his dad and fighting around the divorce. He really gets it. I don't slag my exh - I always try to give son perspective, that his dad didn't grow up in a vacuum and that personal history always needs to be factored in with everyone we meet in life.

Our kids are always paying attention - even when we don't realize it. It's a great gift to model authenticity and compassion. Do that and they will be fine - so will you, but especially do it for them. I'm glad my post helped.
xo

Last edited by bttrfly; 05/10/22 10:50 PM.
M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver