Quote: Post D, I had to go through the thought process of whether I could be emotionally and sexually involved with more than once man, and I ended up deciding yes
I think it's great that you and Johanna feel this way. More power to you ladies. Down with the double-standard!
Rationally, I could talk myself into believing I could do this. I don't have any moral qualms. I'm just not made that way. If I am available and I like a guy well enough to sleep with him, I will instantly become monogamous and give him every opportunity to be my long term mate. I have never cheated on or broken up with a guy because another guy came along and in fact typically take a long hiatus with no sex in between men.
I know this sounds like emotional-fusion but I think it's different more primal,less neurotic. For instance, I can be very jealous. If my H and some woman seem to be flirting with each other, I wouldn't get mad at my H and I wouldn't feel hurt or rejected by him. I would just have a very strong drive to protect my "turf". I would probably put my arm around him and maybe flaunt my breasts and give the other woman a civilized sort of "beat it b*tch" look. Five minutes later I could be having a very pleasant conversation with the same woman.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
