Thanks for the suggestion! He is a TOTAL rear entry man so I think I could sell him on that aspect pretty easily. The things that he will object to are: Cost. Spending so much money on a sex aid will gall him; he thinks we do just fine all by ourselves. The kids. He would be worried that they will find it, ask questions, etc.
I envy all you women who do not have prudish husbands!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Quote: The things that he will object to are: Cost. Spending so much money on a sex aid will gall him; he thinks we do just fine all by ourselves. The kids. He would be worried that they will find it, ask questions, etc.
I know W would raise exactly the same objections. Hopefully after a month or two of 3+X/wk sex, she'll be less prudish/uncertain...(and more adventurous, perhaps even slightly bored!)
EO, I wanted to respond to your post on this thread, since Tim's got locked out. I did not take your post the way that Mojo did...I believe that I know what you are talking about but it is not how I experience it. Nevertheless I did not take offense to it.
I was, however, taken aback at your next paragraph about testosterone. I can tell you from experience that HD women do not have loads of testosterone coursing through their veins! It is definitely a part of the desire and arousal cycle but it is not the only thing. I get the feeling that you are picturing the HD women as a bunch of shemales, LOL. I do not have excessive body hair or a deep voice nor am I muscular in nature. I am very feminine in temperament and not really a tomboy type. In addition, I have had my hormone levels tested and they are fine.
I do experience desire and arousal like a man, though. I often feel horny and could have sex many many times per week. I can often be orgasm-oriented when having sex. It takes very little to get me aroused. Like Mojo, my arousal is directed and inspired by my husband and most of the time (like you) it comes from a completely nonsexual place. The way he smells, the way he sits (of all things!), the fact that he gives my kids a bath every single night...I could go on and on.
I suppose what I am saying is that it really can't be boiled down to hormones. I don't know the precise formula for every human being out there, lol, but I feel certain that testosterone is a smaller part of the picture than what is often presented. Otherwise how could you explain the fact that I, who have very little of it, am horny all the time and my husband who was deemed "Rambo" by our doctor and has tons of T, isn't?
Quote: Mojo: I think I speak for every HD guy here when I say, Will you marry me??
If I was married to a HD guy I wouldn't need the toys.
Joking aside, if I were to leave my H or have a discreet affair, I wouldn't want to inflict myself on any of the HD guys on this board because I can almost guarantee that right after I f**ked his brains out, I would start bawling like a baby.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: I wanted to respond to your post on this thread, since Tim's got locked out.
Yeah, and nice hijack job, ladies!! (he said with a wink)
Quote: I don't know the precise formula for every human being out there, lol, but I feel certain that testosterone is a smaller part of the picture than what is often presented. Otherwise how could you explain the fact that I, who have very little of it, am horny all the time and my husband who was deemed "Rambo" by our doctor and has tons of T, isn't?
And that, of course, is what makes all this such an interesting adventure, and continually the most fascinating subject humans have ever encountered (by "this" I mean the whole subject of sex, which most of modern society insists on ignoring almost in toto, while simultaneously pretending to be grown up about it..)
Further clarification... by "ignoring almost in toto" I meant that most folks are so embarrassed by the whole thing that they only barely scratch the surface of what's actually possible, even in their wildest fantasies...
Quote: I don't know the precise formula for every human being out there, lol, but I feel certain that testosterone is a smaller part of the picture than what is often presented.
I have to agree. I also had a full blood workup lately that showed I had normal levels of all the major hormones. My husband hasn't had his testosterone checked but he has none of the secondary signs of low testosterone (he easily gets erections, he is quite muscular and energetic.) Since he has a history of using porn/MBing instead of approaching me, I would say his "problem" is the opposite of EO's- he feels aroused and physically horny but for some reason this doesn't translate into desire for me.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: You get so starved for attention that all you want to do is bawl...
I know how you feel, Jo but this actually isn't the reason why I would bawl if I were to have sex with someone other than my H and maybe this speaks to the testosterone not being the main thing issue.
There is something about my HD that makes me very, very monogamous. I never dated more than one guy at a time when I was single and I probably couldn't handle having an affair. It's not a conscious or moral choice with me at all. Either you are my man and I want to jump your bones all the time or you aren't and I can talk to you about books or the weather and pretty much ignore the fact that you have a penis.
If I end up having to leave my H for reasons of integrity, it will be extremely hard for me to transition to lusting for someone else in any sort of meaningful way. This might sound terribly regressive but it would have something to do with the fact that my H is the father of my children. There is something extremely strong at work in my brain/psyche at a level midway between reptilian testosterone desire and romantic love and desire for a specific person. Maybe I have an overly developed mammal/primate level. I often have sort of primitive cave woman feelings while having sex. This would be an accurate reflection of my parenting style also. I often think of myself as a sort of Mama Bear kind of mother.
The reason I would probably cry if I had sex with another guy is that my reptilian drive might be strong enough to allow me to f**k him, but when it was over my "mammal-brain" would suddenly realize that he wasn't "my man" and I would freak out like a sleepy baby who suddenly realizes that the strange woman giving her a bottle isn't "Mommy". Does this make any sense?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
(he said with a wink)
but this actually isn't the reason why I would bawl if I were to have sex with someone other than my H and maybe this speaks to the testosterone not being the main thing issue.