I hope as you get better at DB techniques like not engaging in emotionally heavy conversations, GAL, and 180s this all becomes easier. When I began listening and validating and not talking so much, there was a huge change in the dynamics of my relationship.
I control me, you control you took a lot of work to make my mantra!
I hope so. I feel particularly down today since STBXW FIL emailed me. He was supportive, but basically said based on what she said, we probably couldn't have any meaningful conversation. I'm guessing it relates to the blow up we had at dinner.
As I've said before, I can't control her reaction, she would have reacted as such down the line anyhow. My undoing was for bringing that forward.
I feel sad, but I told FIL to support his D and that in time, we can rekindle our relationship.
