I'm actually wondering at some point, for my sanity, I should leave. I'm not there yet, but I still can't eat much, and have trouble sleeping.
I wouldn't leave as 1) that may have negative consequences to custody and finances unless your lawyer advises otherwise, 2) you've not hammered out overnights with D2, so you choosing to leave her behind may be very hard on her.
Originally Posted by toughtimes180
Fark, IHS DBing is mentally exhausting. I've had the perfect db day. Delaying the response to smses, ignoring pointless messages, setting boundaries on vague requests for child minding, ignoring subtly hostile comments, rebuffed attempts at emotional unloads, and dealing with 30 minutes of her just disappearing in her room while I look after baby. At least I got awesome quality kid time while avoiding her company.
Since you have an avoidant side, be sure you're DB'íng e.g. treating her like a Starbucks barista you're being friendly to on your way to GAL and NOT giving her the silent treatment like you might be prone to. Many of us have a tendency towards anxious or avoidant attachments, so I don't mean that in a bad way, but we must be conscientious to avoid those tendencies.
